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Will Specializing Save Freelance Writers?

Posted on May 28, 2010 by lwidmer

What I’m reading downstairs: Spartina by John CaseyWhat’s on the iPod: Conductor by We Were Promised Jetpacks If you haven’t read Jenn Mattern’s in-depth examination of Demand Studios, please take ten minutes to do so. She’s done an excellent job laying things out for writers to take what they want from it. And she’s gone…

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Are You Settling?

Posted on May 27, 2010 by lwidmer

What’s on the iPod: Peace Frog by The DoorsWhat I’m reading: Transparent Things by Nabokov (almost finished) Thanks to Devon for sending me a link to this article about newspapers now outsourcing to Demand Studios. Read it and weep. Loudly. While this news is disturbing and may indeed indicate a downward trend in publishing, what…

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Nudging the Client

Posted on May 26, 2010 by lwidmer

What I’m reading upstairs: Absalom! Absalom! by William FaulknerWhat’s playing on the iPod: Sometime Around Midnight by The Airborne Toxic EventYou? Toddle on over to Anne Wayman’s site for my latest post. Sometimes when work is slow in coming – like now – I nudge clients. I send out emails. Nothing new there, except what…

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What Lost Taught Me About Freelancing

Posted on May 25, 2010 by lwidmer

What’s on the iPod: Tupelo Honey by Van Morrison What I’m reading upstairs (I have upstairs books and downstairs books): The Thich Naht Hahn Collection Love it or hate it, Lost became a television phenomenon – a wild ride through suspended rationality and a lesson in faith over fact. When it ended on Sunday, reactions…

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The Passive-aggressive Client

Posted on May 24, 2010 by lwidmer

What I’m reading: Transparent Things by Vladimir NabokovWhat’s on the iPod: The Twist by Frightened Rabbit Like that? I thought it might be fun to share what we’re reading and listening to. Spent a great Friday off with a writer friend I’ve known for a while, but never met. She and I hit it off…

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Friday Stuff and Ponderings

Posted on May 21, 2010 by lwidmer

It’s been a rough week. Emotionally, anyway. Work hasn’t exactly been front-and-center, but it’s probably a good thing. I sat down yesterday afternoon with all intentions of putting together an article for one of my favorite magazines. Instead, I wrote a farewell note to a dying friend, one I haven’t seen in years, but one…

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Your Writing Script

Posted on May 20, 2010 by lwidmer

Over on Anne Wayman’s blog, Helen Kaiao Chang has a great post up about the writer as a salesperson. Helen outlines why we writers need a sales script, which has helped her increase her business significantly. But what’s in a sales script? Does that sound cold and repetitive? It’s not. My script is this –…

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Wearing the Wellies

Posted on May 19, 2010 by lwidmer

As I extend out into new areas trying to expand the client base, I realize just how prevalent and how deep the crap jobs have become. This week seemed especially bad, probably because I had a temporary lapse in judgment and checked out Craig’s List. Here are some sample red flags from just one day:…

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Wheel Spinning

Posted on May 18, 2010 by lwidmer

Sometimes you get those weeks where nothing is getting done, don’t you? Yesterday it was a trip to the ER to make sure the chest pains weren’t serious (they weren’t – they seem to be acid reflux, amen). My man came from work to sit with me and showed about the same level of concern…

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Disturbances

Posted on May 17, 2010 by lwidmer

Thanks one and all for the participation and camaraderie that helped make the 3rd Annual Writers Worth Day a success! I’ve heard from a few writers who have said this day and our efforts have stopped them from taking content mill jobs or jobs beneath their value. In my eyes, that means we’ve reached our…

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  1. Devon Ellington Avatar
    Devon Ellington
    May 17, 2010

    Talk to friends, write, or do something very, very physical.

    I'm thinking of you, and here when you need me.

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  2. Lori Avatar
    Lori
    May 17, 2010

    You were the first one I talked to, Devon. Thank you for being there. 🙂

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  3. Jennifer Williamson Avatar
    Jennifer Williamson
    May 17, 2010

    Lori, I'm so sorry to hear this! I'm thinking of you too.

    I think sometimes you just have to take time off. Even if it's just a day. I've found that sometimes I've thought I could just power through something, when really I'd be a lot better off being easy on myself and taking a break.

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  4. Cathy Avatar
    Cathy
    May 17, 2010

    Lori:

    I'm so sorry to hear this. Sometimes the great thing about being a writer is we can just pour out the emotions on paper (or onscreen). We do it just for us to ease the pressure of the pain.

    Other times, that may be the last thing we want to do. I always find walking in a favorite spot helps me. And when you're ready-talking about it helps-like you did here.

    Thoughts & prayers for you both and his family.

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  5. Paula Avatar
    Paula
    May 17, 2010

    Well, the furry little distractions went home on Saturday. When they were here I coped by sticking to a fairly strict schedule. Without that,the dogs would have taken over.

    With big disturbances, sometimes you need to distract yourself – especially like the situation you were in Lori, where you can't actually do anything to help at that particular moment. Other times, you just need to stop everything and deal with the issue at hand. Facing things head-on isn't fun, but you tend to get through it faster.

    When it's a disturbing distraction, I tend to clean. After two and a half weeks of furry distractions, my house really needs a good cleaning! But not if it means enduring a bad distraction.

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  6. Gabriella F. Avatar
    Gabriella F.
    May 17, 2010

    I'm sorry to hear about your friend, Lori.

    I know dogs aren't people, but that malaise is how I've felt with my sick dog for several months. For me, the lesson has been that sometimes I just have to give in to my sadness.

    As Jennifer said, I've sometimes tried to force myself to work, but if I don't have a deadline staring at me, it won't work. So I've conceded defeat and given myself the rest of the day off.

    I think the lesson is to be kind to yourself. If you need time and don't have to work–don't. Take the time to do something that will bring a smile to your face, and then don't regret the smile.

    Hang in there. We all know whereof you speak!

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  7. Sarah Nagel Avatar
    Sarah Nagel
    May 17, 2010

    I'm so sorry to hear your sad news, Lori. I hope you find some peace and comfort during this tough time.

    I find that talking to a dear friend always helps. It may not fix the problem, but feeling less alone can make a huge difference.

    Sending you all my best.

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  8. Jenn Mattern Avatar
    Jenn Mattern
    May 17, 2010

    First, I'm sorry I missed out on writer's worth day.

    But I'm much more sorry to hear about your old friend. I'm sure his family will appreciate you making the effort to see them in their time of need.

    As for dealing with distractions, I do much like you did — I just get out and away from it all for a while.

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  9. TheNormalMiddle Avatar
    TheNormalMiddle
    May 17, 2010

    We make plans, and then life happens. I've learned that lesson more times than I'd like…

    Praying for your friend and you both!

    Lindsey

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  10. Kimberly Ben Avatar
    Kimberly Ben
    May 17, 2010

    Oh no, I missed Writer's Worth Day! I can't believe it.

    Lori, I'm so sorry for you and your friend. I agree with everyone who has suggested taking a break if you can to just deal. You're in my prayers.

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  11. Eileen Avatar
    Eileen
    May 17, 2010

    I'm so sorry to hear about your friend. When I'm trying to process bad news, the very last thing I can do is concentrate enough to write. Exercise helps a little, but most of all, for me, it helps to just "do the next thing." And then the next one. That little mantra always seems to get me through a crisis.

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  12. Lori Avatar
    Lori
    May 17, 2010

    Eileen, that's the weird part. All these ideas for poems came flooding in. I can't put them on paper right now, but they're there burning up the psyche. But client projects were not getting done on Wednesday.

    Jen, it's true. the day off made a huge difference. I had to get away from the computer (and Facebook). It helps also that my husband is great. He let me talk through it and listened.

    Cathy, I haven't been part of his life in 30 years, but I feel so connected. It's his dad – his dad is the reason.

    Gabriella, dogs are just as important. I mourned for weeks when my dog died.

    Sorry you missed it too, Jenn! We'll get together soon.

    Thank you everyone for the wishes and prayers. Aim them toward him – he needs them much more than I do.

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  13. Anonymous Avatar
    Anonymous
    May 17, 2010

    I started using the "hide" button on facebook when a friend's sister started posting status updates about her father's stroke. It was a horrible way to receive such major news. I don't want to find about the major illnesses, tragedies, engagements and pregnancies of people I love through facebook.

    Facebook seems to have a tendency to erase the idea of tact.

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  14. becky @ misspriss Avatar
    becky @ misspriss
    May 18, 2010

    Oh Lori, I'm so sorry about your friend. Sometimes it's tough to distract ourselves. I tend to want to sleep, or get out of the house & distract myself in some way. And talking to friends helps, too.

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  15. Lori Avatar
    Lori
    May 18, 2010

    Becky, worse is the feeling that he may not remember me in the same way I remember him. Doubtful, but it's possible. Lots of time has passed. Doesn't really matter, though. He was special to me whether I was all that to him or not. I tend to honor those types of relationships.

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