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Writer Wednesday: Fair Use and Mashups

Posted on by lwidmer

What I’m listening to: Dark Nights by Dorothy For those of you freelance writers who work your asses off to do your jobs correctly, you’re about to feel some vindication. There was this book — a successful one, and one that was crowdfunded — that was no more than a mashup of both a Dr….

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Free Advice Friday: The Purposeful Freelancer

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What I’m listening to: One Thing Leads to Another by The Fixx Know those weeks when you’re trying to get a lot done so the next week won’t be so bad? Forget it. Nothing is getting done and next week looks like more of the same. I have four deadlines, three of which are indeed…

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The Freelance Writer’s Guide to Overcoming Lousy Social Media Marketing

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What I’m listening to: A Rock ‘n Roll Fantasy by The Kinks A sucky week ahead of me. I have plenty of work, but I also have physical therapy for an exercise-induced foot injury. Plus, I have a good dose of personal junk to deal with that just sucks my energy by the end of a…

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4 Freelance Writing Myths You Can Dispel Right Now

Posted on by lwidmer

I was talking with a relative at a party last year when I realized I was missing a pretty big opportunity. He’d asked me how the writing was going, and then he said it: “You write stories and magazine articles, right?” Magazine articles, yes. But stories? Hardly ever, and certainly not for pay. He had gotten…

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Freelance Negotiating, Used Car Style

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Because my life wasn’t complicated enough, I decided to buy a car right when everything was turning to quicksand underneath my feet. The night before I drove west to help my mom with my dad’s care, I was signing papers for my new(er) car. Twelve hours later, I drove it west. When I got home, I…

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The Government’s How-Not-To Guide to Better Freelance Writing

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When you need them, real friends are there. Such was the case last week. I had to take off for eight days because my parents needed me. Dad was in the hospital. Reports weren’t good. I bolted. Somewhere about four days or so into my absence, Paula Hendrickson checked in. As did Cathy Miller. As did…

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Goal Planning Worksheets for Freelance Writers

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By Jennifer Mattern In my last post on the necessity of change, I mentioned quarterly evaluations as a good way to take stock of your current situation so you can figure out what you need to change over the next few months. I also promised you a worksheet or two to help you do this….

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Freelance Writing Self-Rules That Are Not Right or Wrong

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Does the notion of rules leave you bristling? Or do you find comfort within the protective structure they provide? When I read Jenn Mattern’s post, Freelance Writing Rules (and Why You Should Break Them), I thought back to the start of my own freelance writing career. Since I began in 2008, I’ve read a lot…

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The Necessity of Change

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By Jennifer Mattern I’m in again for Lori today. Lori will be back next week, and tomorrow Cathy Miller will share a post with you on setting rules for yourself and how she’s done so in her freelance writing career. But first, let’s talk about something you can’t avoid if you want to succeed in…

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Freelance Writing Rules (and Why You Should Break Them)

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By Jennifer Mattern Once upon a time, I was newly self-employed and living much too close to my mother. (In my defense, she moved near me, not the other way around – into my apartment building, I kid you not.) There was no avoiding her. Every time she visited, without fail, she plopped a newspaper…

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  1. Cathy Miller Avatar
    Cathy Miller

    This is why your blog so appealed to me when I first started freelancing, Jenn. I listened much too long to those “rules” until I finally began freelancing. In the short time I have done that; however, I’ve seen my attitude evolve to listen to my own rules and be happier for it. My only regret is I didn’t do it sooner.

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    1. Jennifer Mattern Avatar
      Jennifer Mattern

      I certainly won’t claim to be innocent here. I try to push things more in the sense of “hey… this had a huge affect on my business, and I really really really think you should give it a fair shot to see if it helps you too.” But I’ve drawn harder lines on things myself — like working for site with long histories of exploiting writers or the importance of specializing, even if it’s not as strict as some writers think that has to be. But like you say, things evolve. And my aim has always been to share how my own business evolves and let it be one example to learn from — though hopefully no one’s only. I’m glad freelancing’s made you happier Cathy. Any particular self-rules you can share to show how things have changed for you? Might help newer folks. 🙂

    2. Cathy Miller Avatar
      Cathy Miller

      I could write you a guest post on that. How’s that for suspense? 😀

    3. Jennifer Mattern Avatar
      Jennifer Mattern

      So… that last comment was me. I was still logged into the site as Lori from posting earlier, so it posted the comment as her. Fixed the name, but apparently I’ll still have Lori’s face at least awhile until Gravatars update. lol

    4. Cathy Miller Avatar
      Cathy Miller

      LOL! A new kind of anonymous stalking. 🙂

  2. Paula Hendrickson Avatar
    Paula Hendrickson

    When I got to the but where you cited your mother’s rules and saw “…never complain or speak out…” I actually laughed.

    I’m much the same. I’m generally quiet, but not afraid to speak out as needed. I also ask a LOT of questions. I guess I’ve never been satisfied by the “because that’s how it’s always been done” explanation. More than once as a kid I’d respond to that with, “But it’s STUPID!”

    Maybe my main rule is that there are no real rules. Just guidelines—some which will work for you while others won’t. But you know there’s someone out there asking, “But why NOT?”

    In my family there’s a response for any “why” without an answer: Because B. I have no idea how or why it originated, or what it’s even supposed to mean. It’s just our way of saying there is no real answer.

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    1. Jennifer Mattern Avatar
      Jennifer Mattern

      Same here. I pretty much trust no one simply on their say-so. If you state something as fact without any explanation or proof, my mind immediately pokes holes in whatever you’ve said or goes into “devil’s advocate” mode. If they can’t justify what they’re saying is absolutely necessary, I’m unlikely to take that person at their word.

      I find asking a lot of questions is something I do even more on the personal side now than when I was younger. I catch myself using it whenever people say, do, or believe something truly stupid (like making a racist or sexist remark). I ask questions to force them to think about it objectively — partially for their benefit, but partially because it helps me see if they’ve truly thought through the things they act on or if they’re just parroting bullshit they’ve been trained to say or believe. It tells me a lot about people. And that’s something I wish freelancers would do more on the professional front. Critical thinking skills are a lost art.

      “Because B?” That’s interesting! I don’t think we ever got more growing up than the good old “because I said so.”

    2. Paula Hendrickson Avatar
      Paula Hendrickson

      My questioning authority was obvious when I was about 10. A friend invited me to a “swimming party” at her church. It was winter, so it was a novelty. I have no idea where the church was, but a group of kids were in a bus, after dark, singing hymns, some of which I didn’t know. When we arrived at the church, we were escorted into a side office, where we stood as the fire and brimstone preacher telling us we needed to be “saved.” Yeah, right, buddy. I was raised Lutheran, and they encourage questions. So I asked questions. I asked a LOT of questions. So many that he and a woman ushered me into an even smaller office and started pressuring me to shut up. I remember him asking me if I loved my siblings and parents – saying if I were saved I could “save” them, too. Otherwise we’d never get to Heaven. (He used far coarser language, when you consider he was addressing a child. He also didn’t know my my was dying.) I felt like a hostage. I prayed silently so God would know I was only playing along with these idiots so I could get away. Then he proudly trotted us out before a packed congregation (and it wasn’t even Sunday), showing them all the souls he “saved.” It backfired. As soon as I got home I burst into tears, told my mom everything. She called my friend’s mom. Their family left that church and joined ours. That experience proved to me why it’s so vital to ask questions so I can determine if that person can be believed.

      And re: “Because B” and “because I said so,” my dad had three brothers. They always said that between them they knew everything in the world. Uncle Wilbur died really young—none of us met ever got to meet him. So when we had a family event and I asked my dad something he couldn’t answer (or pretended he couldn’t), he sent me to Uncle Les, who sent me to Uncle Gale, who’d usually say, “Oh. Wilbur knew that one.”

    3. Jennifer Mattern Avatar
      Jennifer Mattern

      Oh wow Paula. What an awful thing to do to children. But I suppose sometimes it’s the bad behavior that tells us the most about people, and it’s good your friend’s family found out if they weren’t aware before.

      And that thing with your dad and his brothers is adorable. 🙂

  3. Lori Avatar
    Lori

    Hi guys,

    Thank you, Jenn for taking care of the blog as I deal with my dad’s health issues.

    I should be back to blogging by Monday. It’s wonderful to have great friends like Jenn who volunteer to help a writer in need. 🙂

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    1. Jennifer Mattern Avatar
      Jennifer Mattern

      You’re quite welcome. One more from me, and we have one coming from Cathy too. You take whatever time you need, and if you help beyond this week, just say so. 🙂

  4. Jake Poinier Avatar
    Jake Poinier

    Funny, accurate, insightful…pure Jenn Mattern! My dad was a self-employed salesman for most of his life, so I witnessed a ton of rule breaking and bullheaded independence growing up. But I also saw a guy who busted his ass and prided himself on being positive, optimistic, gregarious, and focused on relationships. I can only hope I’m setting as good an example for my kids.

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    1. Jennifer Mattern Avatar
      Jennifer Mattern

      Thanks Jake. Your dad sounds like a heck of a guy, and a great role model. 🙂

      It’s interesting that you brought up the family connection with self-employment. It makes me wonder if that’s a part of the pushback I got from my mother early on. Her father was an electrician who owned his own shop. I always saw his entrepreneurship as something that’s just kind of in the blood… I come from a long line of risk-takers, and he was just one of the more recent examples. I always respected that about him. But it can be a tough industry, especially in NYC. So I’m betting she saw a lot of ups and downs over the years. An uncle took over that business later, and I know he faced similar at times. Obviously it’s not the same as writing, but that could be a part of why she was so nervous about the stability of it all. Interesting food for thought!

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